“I still have my feet on the ground, I just wear better shoes.” – unknown
If there are three things that I need to have before I go for a night out… it will be my phone, money and my high heels.
I’m a petite 154 cm so high heels are essential for my night out in town. I need the extra height, illusion of longer legs and those heels that will complete my look.
I love going to bars, sipping cocktails with my gals and of course dancing the night away but I have learned that having the right shoe can make or break my night.
Here are my 7 life lessons to wearing high heels:
1. Find balance in Aesthetics and comfort
This fact has bitten me in the backside for years now, and also have been an issue of most women. They say it hurts to look good. No pain, no gain. But sometimes, I would love to wear those glamorous diamante-studded shoes and it doesn’t matter how much it hurts, or how many blisters i’ll get. I just want to wear it. It’s a special night! It matches my dress! Or, I feel sexy in it! As i got a little bit wiser (or older), i realised that i need to find a balance between looking good and being comfortable. On nights that i go out dancing, i wouldn’t wear 12 cm heels, i prefer a comfortable 4-6cm. I would put on those jelly cushions to protect my feet from blistering and i would rub the edges of my leather shoes with candle wax so as not to cut through my skin. Wearing comfy shoes has made my night a lot more fun as i can focus having fun instead of painful feet! Check Fassion Cave we sell shoes that are beautiful yet comfortable.
2. Think investment- Cost per Wear
Sometimes its a good idea to spend more on shoes that will last. Think of it as an investment. Expensive shoes are normally better quality and will last longer than cheap shoes which I can only wear twice or thrice before I have to throw it out. So far I have bought one tan comfortable shoes and I wear it atleast twice a week which makes the cost per wear $1.04 per wear. Whilst the cheap shoes I was only able to wear three times cost me $5 per wear.
3. Unlike clothes, your shoe size will never change
It may be more practical to buy shoes that fits well, and as the saying goes “ if the shoe fits, buy it in every colour” rings true. I have had moments when i bought beautiful dress to find out that after gaining a few kilos I cannot wear it anymore. But shoes are more loyal to me, I still wear the classy shoes I wore 5 years ago.
4. Some shoes scream ‘High maintenance’!
Be careful when choosing shoes as some require a lot of TLC. I have an obsession with suede/velvet shoes. Somehow it makes me feel like a princess. But when it rains or I step on a puddle, I’m princess no more. Suede shoes need a water resistant spray. Leather shoes on the other hand can be polished to protect it from dust and look brand new! Some shoes that are less high maintenance are: thongs and sandals although that means your toenails must be well maintained! Its not a great look to see a pretty girl with dirty nails!
5. Women and Lust for shoes
Men may never be able to understand a woman’s bizarre relationship with shoes. My heart races when I see a beautiful shoe, especially when its on sale! My love (or lust) for shoes began at 21, when I bought an expensive jewelled shoe from my own pocket! I slipped my feet in this beautiful shoes: it made me taller, leaner, with a sexy silhouette and gave a magic touch to my figure 8 walk. I know a lot of women are like me, owning hundreds of shoes in all colours. I know some women are so in-love with a specific type of shoe that they buy a shoe one size smaller or bigger because they ran out of stock. In times of Heart-throbbing and nerve-wracking stress, I shop for shoes, it is my salvation. I have just visited Christian Laboutin’s store in Paris for the first time and his designer shoes bleed passion. One of my wish list is a Laboutin shoe.
6. Keep off the grass
I have worn stiletto’s to a party not knowing it will be on a grassy outdoor area. Mortified, as my heels sank in the soil, I have made a trail of ant holes on their soil as a souvenir. Great! One gerat thing i have learned is to be aware on the where you are taking your shoes. I have just been to Paris and same rule applies, I can’t wear heels in the cobbled streets of Paris! Practicality is a must! Also wearing sandals that do not have a rubber grip has given me a few face-plants. Not a good sight!
7. Special occasion indulgence
Last tip is that there really is no rule. Shopping for those perfect shoes is a mood inflicting and strenuous process. But sometimes we just want to treat ourselves for a special occasion, after a payrise, or just because. One of the lessons I have learned is that sometimes i just want to feel good. And if I feel good then it must be right. And you must too.
“Besides, I’d seen a really nice pair of flats yesterday in the mall and I wanted them for my own. I can’t describe the feeling of immediate familiarity that rushed between us. The moment I clapped eyes on them I felt like I already owned them. I could only suppose that we were together in a former life. That they were my shoes when I was a serving maid in medieval Britain or when I was a princess in ancient Egypt. Or perhaps they were the princess and I was the shoes. Who’s to know? Either way I knew that we were meant to be together.”